Sheldon is a complex character, like any other. Or maybe exactly not (if you would like it that way) considering how predictable he could be. However, complimenting someone using him as a synonym or reference is possibly the trickier part. More so than many may like to think or agree.
Hear me out on this. If some aspect of someone reminds you of Sheldon, I would suggest to specify that aspect. Because being called Sheldon, in general, might not be the compliment you think it should be.
He is smart, nay, genius. However, his emotional intelligence is quite not there in the map. He could be unavailable and unbothered (sometimes, though not always) when it comes to supporting his best friend emotionally. He loves them in his own way, but if it comes to a turmoil (as per Sheldon standards), he would give up on them without a second thought. (He is still a likeable character, but there are nuances to him like any other human being.)
So, when it comes to give a compliment based on Sheldon, it is better to tread carefully. The recipient of the compliment might not prefer just their intelligence to be highlighted as a part of their being. They might want their emotional intelligence or humane aspect to be a major aspect of their identity, rather than just their intelligence or smartness. Comparing them to Sheldon, without specifying, might be anti-climactic.
I came across a conversation with someone regarding this. He is very smart, witty, and kind. Most often, many would praise him for his smart brain or presence of mind. He would smile, say a note of gratitude, and that's that. However, when he spoke about the best compliment he received, it wasn't what would generally be expected or perceived.
He was told this by a friend of his: "You are one of the few people I would introduce to others because that would be a good representation of who I am... as a person." He couldn't speak for a moment trying to grasp that. Someone had "seen" him as a person with compassion and other human qualities than just being smart. Sometimes, people prefer to be acknowledged for their humaneness, or for their wit/wisdom, and overall personality/individuality rather than just one aspect.
While I say this, I also know how difficult the art of complimenting could be for some. May be not difficult, but tricky. One must at the very least try to understand the recipient's preference, what matters to them, and/or how they want to be identified as. It's not as difficult if you invest a little attention to them. Because every person reflects their priorities, a little bit investment of your attention would tell you clearly. It shows sincerity of your words, and that is what matters the most.
Having said all this, never shy away from a compliment. A few words of kindness could make somebody's day. It might be their only ray on a grey cloudy day. Your few words/action might be the force that could switch on the lights on their darkest moments.
If you are looking for a time, it is now. The opportunity is always there. Grab it and let the people around you know how much you value them. Let a stranger know that their efforts are seen and heard. And most importantly, give yourself the compliment that you deserve but may have always withheld. Go ahead, spread the magic of words.
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