There was so much I had in my mind when I thought of writing this, but now that I start writing about it, I wonder how to put it in words. Nevertheless, I will give it a try.
So, from the title, it might have been clear that this was going to be about Jimin. I will avoid the risk of unnecessarily introducing him (who wouldn’t know Jimin of BTS, right?). I would rather focus on his attributes that I will address here.
Of the seven members, most people (based on personal observations) adore Jimin’s relationship with the other members, especially with his friend Taehyung aka V. From few of the comments that I have read, most would be about how they also want a friend like Jimin (in V’s context) and/or a person in their life who is as thoughtful as him. Let’s call this the 1st perspective. There were also very few comments that mentioned that rather than wanting to have someone like him, why not be like him for someone. Let’s call this the 2nd perspective.
...how they also want a friend like Jimin (in V’s context) and/or a person in their life who is as thoughtful as him.
Of course, everyone wants to have such warmth in each of their relationships, whether you are in the receiving end (1st perspective) or in the giving end (2nd perspective). What I am trying to put forward is: when we say we want someone like Jimin to be in our life, we are focusing on few of his characteristics/personality traits. Being considerate of others, being thoughtful, sensitive, and caring to the people around him, or being kind and a good human being in general are the “Jimin” traits that everyone wants … either for themselves (as in the 2nd perspective) or in the people around them (as in the 1st perspective).
I understand both perspectives if I may say so. My perspective, although related, is a little different in this scenario. In both the perspectives, it was perhaps assumed that they do not already have such a relation, be it as friends, or as siblings, or anything else. That is why they were wanting it in the first place. What if…? What if they already have someone like him? What if they just do not know about that? What if they were taking it for granted just because they could? There could be a lot more “What if?”s.
What if they just do not know about that? What if they were taking it for granted just because they could?
When we see Jimin being thoughtful or caring, we are observing it from a third person’s POV. We are able to see the entire picture (as it is portrayed). Just like in a movie. We know what each character is thinking and/or feeling. Being in that position gives us a certain sense of understanding of how things are panning out as they happen. However, when it concerns us in our life, we are not observers, we become the subject, the actor. We are the people that are involved in the scene, firsthand. So, there is a higher chance that we might not realize what other person is thinking or feeling at a certain point, especially towards us.
...we are not observers, we become the subject, the actor. We are the people that are involved in the scene, firsthand.
There might have been times where one of our friends might have been very considerate towards us. They might have taken care of us numerous times without making us realize that. I mean, if a person is sensitive, we would not even know that about them. Because a sensitive person would not go about broadcasting it… or the fact that they have done something just for us. Forget broadcasting it to others, they might not even realize (majority of the times) themselves that they are being considerate.
Because a sensitive person would not go about broadcasting it… or the fact that they have done something just for us.
So, is it not up to us to realize that?! Rather than just taking our friends and/or any of our relations taken for granted, shouldn’t we start recognizing that? If they have done something for us, however small the gesture might be, should we not be caring enough to identify that? Small things they do… like calling you up randomly just because they remembered you or sending you a text because some random thing reminded them of you, or just being there (even if you do not call or text often)… shouldn’t that be viewed with fondness and affection.
Let us try and start identifying these small gestures. Let us start identifying the Jimin in them and the Jimin in us too. Would it not be sad if we already have someone (or many of them) with us and we are just not able to recognize the “Jimin-ness” in them? And just ignoring that presence?
...and we are just not able to recognize the “Jimin-ness” in them? And just ignoring that presence?
Let us not take anything for granted. Let us not consider anything as insignificant… every breath we breath, every smile we smile, or every tear we cry. Only then we will begin to feel the warmth of the sunshine in us and around us. That is what I think. Let us value each moment we live in this beautiful earth. After all, it is just One Life!
As a bonus, I will share an anecdote. Few days back, I watched one video (of BTS) wherein Jimin and J-Hope are having a conversation about RM. Jimin brought up that what if RM did not know how to speak in English. J-Hope, in his way, gives his view. The video ended with Jimin saying that he is terrified to even think of that. Why I mentioned it here? They never took RM’s ability to converse in English as granted. They didn’t think that it was his job as the leader. They recognized and realized his effort, understood that he is doing it for them, and acknowledged RM for having done that. Wouldn’t our relations be much more amicable if we did that too!
Let us do that. Let us identify Jimin!
P.S. : I am not getting paid by Jimin to write this.
P.P.S. :
- The words written here were originally just thoughts. There is no proper software available (with me) to translate thoughts into words as it is. Hence, the result portrayed here is lacking in many ways. I request your understanding regarding this.
- When I portrayed few of Jimin’s traits here, in no way I am ignoring or undermining his other traits (his dedication, discipline, sincerity, to name a few).
- This is not a promotional campaign.
Let us recognize the Jimins amongst us :)
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